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The price of shame

In 1998, says Monica Lewinsky, "I was patient number zero in losing almost instant personal reputation on a global scale." Today, the kind of online public humiliation she endured has become a constant. In her courageous speech, Monica takes a look at our "culture of humiliation," in which online shaming is counted in dollars, calling for a different way of doing things.

The Skill of Humor

Humor is something that transcends most barriers. It is a common unification; a concept understood by all. Despite this, there exists a large portion of the population that does not think they can utilize humor. Andrew Tarvin will show you that everyone can use humor.

How not to take things personally

Frederik Imbo studied theatre at the Royal Conservatory of Ghent and has acted in lots of television series. He founded Imboorling and now has over 15 years' experience in stimulating and supporting people. With the aim of improving their communication skills Frederik gives presentations, workshops, training courses and personal coaching sessions to anyone prepared to make their two ears available.

Emotional Communication

Doug nos habla sobre la comunicación emocional como técnica y herramienta, y cómo podemos incorporarlas a nuestra vida y en nuestras conversaciones diarias para provocar un cambio positivo.

You are contagious

Vanessa reveals that our behaviour, from hand gestures to how we say 'hello', changes the way others perceive our confidence. Vanessa Van Edwards is an interpersonal intelligence expert and public speaker. Her behaviour research lab ‘The Science of People’ has been featured in Fast Company, Inc, Men’s Health, Forbes, and on Fox News. She is a monthly columnist for Entrepreneur; the leading instructor in people skills on Udemy and CreativeLive; and has led training sessions at a number of Fortune 500 companies around the world. She lives in Portland, Oregon.

The Real Risk of Forgiveness–And Why It’s Worth It

Forgiveness is tricky. Everyone says you should forgive, but no one will tell you how, exactly, to do it. And is it always possible—even for something as traumatic as gun violence? In this vulnerable and heartfelt talk, writer Sarah Montana takes us through her journey of forgiving her family’s killer. She offers an inside look at what we risk when we choose to forgive, and a hopeful glimpse of the freedom that lies on the other side of grief. Sarah Montana is a NYC based writer, editor, and branded content producer.

How to make stress your friend

Stress. It makes your heart pound, your breathing quicken and your forehead sweat. But while stress has been made into a public health enemy, new research suggests that stress may only be bad for you if you believe that to be the case. Psychologist Kelly McGonigal urges us to see stress as a positive, and introduces us to an unsung mechanism for stress reduction: reaching out to others.

My love letter to cosplay

Adam Savage makes things and builds experiments, and he uses costumes to add humor, color and clarity to the stories he tells. Tracing his lifelong love of costumes — from a childhood space helmet made of an ice cream tub to a No-Face costume he wore to Comic-Con — Savage explores the world of cosplay and the meaning it creates for its community. "We're connecting with something important inside of us," he says. "The costumes are how we reveal ourselves to each other."

The secret to living longer may be your social life

The Italian island of Sardinia has more than six times as many centenarians as the mainland and ten times as many as North America. Why? According to longevity researcher Susan Pinker, it's not a sunny disposition or a low-fat, gluten-free diet that keeps the islanders alive so long -- it's their emphasis on close personal relationships and face-to-face interactions. Learn more about super longevity as Pinker explains what it takes to live to 100 and beyond.

How changing your story can change your life

Stories help you make sense of your life -- but when these narratives are incomplete or misleading, they can keep you stuck instead of providing clarity. In an actionable talk, psychotherapist and advice columnist Lori Gottlieb shows how to break free from the stories you've been telling yourself by becoming your own editor and rewriting your narrative from a different point of view.

The beauty of being a misfit

To those who feel like they don't belong: there is beauty in being a misfit. Author Lidia Yuknavitch shares her own wayward journey in an intimate recollection of patchwork stories about loss, shame and the slow process of self-acceptance. "Even at the moment of your failure, you are beautiful," she says. "You don't know it yet, but you have the ability to reinvent yourself endlessly. That's your beauty."

For the love of fangirls

When you think of fangirls, what comes to mind: large swaths of fandom (usually for a boyband) whose feelings culminate in tears and joyful screams? Perhaps you grimace or roll your eyes at the thought. In this fun, lively talk, playwright Yve Blake asks us to reevaluate our reaction to the misunderstood passion and power of fangirls, emphasizing why we should all embrace our own unbridled enthusiasm.

If I should have a daughter...

"If I should have a daughter, instead of Mom, she's gonna call me Point B ... " began spoken word poet Sarah Kay, in a talk that inspired two standing ovations at TED2011. She tells the story of her metamorphosis -- from a wide-eyed teenager soaking in verse at New York's Bowery Poetry Club to a teacher connecting kids with the power of self-expression through Project V.O.I.C.E. -- and gives two breathtaking performances of "B" and "Hiroshima."

Why we laugh

Did you know that you're 30 times more likely to laugh if you're with somebody else than if you're alone? Cognitive neuroscientist Sophie Scott shares this and other surprising facts about laughter in this fast-paced, action-packed and, yes, hilarious dash through the science of the topic.

The danger of hiding who you are

Morgana Bailey has been hiding her true self for 16 years. In a brave talk, she utters four words that might not seem like a big deal to some, but to her have been paralyzing. Why speak up? Because she’s realized that her silence has personal, professional and societal consequences. In front of an audience of her co-workers, she reflects on what it means to fear the judgement of others, and how it makes us judge ourselves.

Why 30 is not the new 20

Clinical psychologist Meg Jay has an important message for twenty-somethings: contrary to popular belief, your twenties are not a decade to waste. In this provocative talk, Jay says that just because marriage, work and kids happen later in life, doesn't mean you shouldn't start planning for them today. She gives 3 tips on how 20-somethings can reclaim their adulthood in the decade that will define their lives.

Why we're more honest with machines than people

For a genuine conversation, consider talking to a robot; the less humanized, the better. Consumer researcher Anne Scherer shares her findings on why some machines get us to open up better than actual people, revealing fascinating insights about human nature that could lead to more honest interactions in our day-to-day lives.

How to Deal with Difficult People

From co-workers and colleagues to friends and family, we are faced with challenging relationships daily. Unfortunately, we often go about managing them the wrong way. Only by elevating our understanding of behavior and acting through an internalized approach will we be able to master the conflicts created by dealing with difficult people. Jay Johnson is a trainer specializing in communication and leadership development. Using a unique perspective of behavioral intelligence, Jay empowers people and organizations across the globe stretching from Main Street to Wall Street.

3 steps to turn everyday get-togethers into transformative gatherings

Why do some gatherings take off and others don't? Author Priya Parker shares three easy steps to turn your parties, dinners, meetings and holidays into meaningful, transformative gatherings.

Why Lifestyle is the BEST Medicine

The United States spends more per person on healthcare than any other nation in the world, yet our health outcomes are near the bottom of the list when compared to countries with similar education and economic resources. The chronic disease epidemic that has emerged over the last 50 years, including cardiovascular disease, diabetes, cancer and dementia, can be attributed to the cumulative effect of lifestyle choices we make every day. 

What I’ve learned from reading over 10,000 diaries

Everybody has an untold story worthy of telling. Sally MacNamara Ivey has been collecting and researching diaries since 1987. Since then she has had the privilege of reading over 10,000 original vintage diaries. Sally began her own diary at the age of 10 and was later given her great-grandmothers diary. Sally's life changing journey soon began and all because of the precious handwritten words and untold stories of those who have gone before her. Her extensive collection spans from 1792 to 2010.

Are You a Giver or a Taker?

In every workplace, there are three basic kinds of people: givers, takers and matchers. Organizational psychologist Adam Grant breaks down these personalities and offers simple strategies to promote a culture of generosity and keep self-serving employees from taking more than their share

What I learned from 100 days of rejection

Jia Jiang adventures boldly into a territory so many of us fear: rejection. By seeking out rejection for 100 days -- from asking a stranger to borrow $100 to requesting a "burger refill" at a restaurant -- Jiang desensitized himself to the pain and shame that rejection often brings and, in the process, discovered that simply asking for what you want can open up possibilities where you expect to find dead ends.

How to fix a broken heart

At some point in our lives, almost every one of us will have our heart broken. Imagine how different things would be if we paid more attention to this unique emotional pain. Psychologist Guy Winch reveals how recovering from heartbreak starts with a determination to fight our instincts to idealize and search for answers that aren't there -- and offers a toolkit on how to, eventually, move on. Our hearts might sometimes be broken, but we don't have to break with them.

The secret to being right

Why does talking about politics bring out the worst in us? Is it because we can’t possibly be wrong? Political commentator and broadcaster Julia Belle experienced her own awkward awakening when she realized she didn’t really KNOW anything... And that admitting this and being open to changing her political opinion was the smartest thing she could do.

The soft power of highly sensitive people

Elena mentors highly sensitive people and empathetic entrepreneurs. In the video, she explains why we need to change the popular belief about highly sensitive people.

How to Have a Good Conversation

When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have great conversations – and most of us don’t converse very well. A great conversation requires a balance between talking and listening. This balance is important because bad communication leads to bad relationships, at home, at work, everywhere.

Using Mindfulness to Choose Love Over Fear

Dr. Narveen Dosanjh is a Medical Doctor and Integrative Psychiatrist who explains the neuroscience behind unconscious bias in the brain. Dr. Dosanjh hopes that greater awareness of our mind’s ability to wire and rewire stereotyping can help build a bridge to a higher consciousness.

"Everything happens for a reason" -- and other lies I've loved

In life's toughest moments, how do you go on living? Kate Bowler has been exploring this question ever since she was diagnosed with stage IV cancer at age 35. In a profound, heartbreaking and unexpectedly funny talk, she offers some answers -- challenging the idea that "everything happens for a reason" and sharing hard-won wisdom about how to make sense of the world after your life is suddenly, completely changed. "I believe that in the darkness, even there, there will be beauty and there will be love," she says.

How to Figure Out What You Really Want

Have you ever wondered what you actually want? Then join Ashley Stahl–career coach, author, former counterterrorism and podcast host– as she shares her 3 key steps to help you connect to your life's purpose, discover your ideal career path, and make what she likes to call a "You Turn," the decision to get out of fear and tap into to what you actually want out of life. She hosts inspirational guests each week on her show, "the You Turn Podcast", with the intention of helping her listeners upgrade their mindset both in work and love, and land a new job they love. Ashley Stahl is a counterterrorism professional turned podcaster, forthcoming author, and career coach who helps clients find their purpose, build their confidence, and launch successful service-based businesses. Ashley also hosts inspirational guests each week on her show, the You Turn Podcast, with the intention of helping listeners work on themselves, raise their confidence—all while taking life less seriously.

What makes a friendship last? | Am I Normal?

Sustaining friendships and making new friends can be challenging, even when we know it’s important. So how can we make our friendships last without feeling overwhelmed? And is there a formula to follow for making new ones? To find out, data journalist Mona Chalabi turns to her most trusted sources: data and her mum.

The art of relationships

Can communication serve as a way to improve relationships with others?

Social Media is Making Us Unsocial

Social technology is simultaneously connecting us and isolating us. It’s affecting everything from our basic social relationships to the way that we work, learn and experience. Social media should be a support to real relationships, not a catalyst to losing them.